Questions for Increasing Closenes

Self-care from the VA: Questions for Increasing Closeness

¨ Identify someone with whom you’d like to become closer. It could be someone you know well or someone you’re just getting to know. Although this exercise has a reputation for making people fall in love, it is actually useful for anyone you want to feel close to, including family members, friends, and acquaintances. Before trying it, make sure both you and your partner are comfortable with sharing personal thoughts and feelings with each other.

  •  Find a time when you and your partner have at least 45 minutes free and are able to meet.
  • For 15 minutes, take turns asking one another the questions below. Each person should answer each question, but in an alternating order, so that a different person goes first each time.
  • Given the choice of anyone in the world, whom would you want as a dinner guest?
  • Would you like to be famous? In what way?
  • Before making a telephone call, do you ever rehearse what you are going to say? Why?What would constitute a “perfect” day for you?
  • When did you last sing to yourself? To someone else?
  • If you were able to live to the age of 90 and retain either the mind or body of a 30-year-old for the last 60 years of your life, which would you want?
  • Do you have a secret hunch about how you will die?
  • Name three things you and your partner appear to have in common.
  • For what in your life do you feel most grateful?
  • If you could change anything about the way you were raised, what would it be
  • Take four minutes and tell your partner your life story in as much detail as possible.
  • If you could wake up tomorrow having gained any one quality or ability, what would it be?

Source: https://ggia.berkeley.edu/practice/36_questions_for_increasing_closeness?­_ga=2.136219697.1828059284.1589475649-118621719.1589475649

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